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“In a world where permissive misbehavior is more the rule than the exception—at a time when so many parents have opted out—Jill Rigby comes along with a marvelous ray of hope for all who have accepted the responsibility of guiding those who will lead the next generation.” ~H. B. London, VP of Focus on the Family~

Thanks to Howard Books, I was privileged to receive a copy of Jill Rigby’s Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World to review. My take on the book? What a gem! I plan to re-read her book before school begins & then share it with everyone I can. (This week I’m sharing a copy with one fortunate bloggy friend via Rafflecopter!)

How can you tell if this book will benefit you?
  • Are you helping your children find their purpose & teaching them to persevere in fulfilling that purpose?
  • Can you set boundaries without building walls between you and your children?
  • Are your methods of discipline instilling goodness in your children?
  • Are you doing all you can to protect & shield your children from the garbage of our culture?
  • Do you engage your children in meaningful activities?
  • Do you listen with your heart to your children’s needs?
  • Have you found contentment so your children can be filled with gratefulness?
  • Are you the person you want your children to become? Are you closer today than yesterday?
If you desire helpful hints and practical guidance in any of those areas, then you should read this book!

What this book taught me: There’s a big difference between Self-Esteem and Self-Respect. If we focus only on building self-esteem, we teach the kids in our care “to focus on themselves and how they feel and what they want . . . it encourages them to see everything as if looking into a mirror, so they grow up believing ‘it’s all about me.’ . . . They live by the motto ‘I want it, and I want it now.’ Kids with this attitude aren’t exhibiting self-confidence. They are experiencing self-conceit.”

But when we help kids respect themselves, we teach them to focus on others, and how others feel and what others need. This perspective, in turn, leads children to see everything through a window, seeing their own images reflected against the world beyond the glass, rather than in a mirror, and to grow up believing ‘it’s more about others and less about me.’”

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So, parents, are you ready to enroll in Jill’s School of Respect?

Jill’s book will lead you through the SOR’s 4 distinct stages, each with different Development Goals & Training Methods. During each stage kids have 2 critical Soul Questions which parents need to answer. Here’s a preview:

Stage 1: Birth to Age 2. Focus: Building Trust in Tots through Routine. (Soul Questions: Can I trust you? Who’s in charge?)

Sage 2: Age 3 to Age 5. Focus: Developing Security in Tykes through Recognition. (Soul Questions: Are you watching me? Who do I belong to?)

Stage 3: Age 6 to Age 12. Focus: Helping Tweens learn Obedience through Relationship. (Soul Questions: Do you really love me? Are you real?)

Stage 4: Age 13 to Age 19. Focus: Teaching Self-Respect through Responsibility. (Soul Questions: Who am I? Can I be in charge?)

Quick Tip for Fall: For a Pre-School or Kindergarten student who cries when leaving mom each morning, turn a photo of mom into a button that can be carried in his/her pocket.

Have I convinced you? You can purchase a copy of Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World at this link. Keep in mind that the book also contains a Study Guide & would be perfect for your small group!

And now for the GIVEAWAY. You have a chance to win a copy of the book today! Enter below & stop back next week to see who won. (I tweaked my easy entry, so if you couldn’t leave your name before—you should be able to now!)

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jill rigbyAbout the author: Jill Rigby Garner, character education and parenting expert, and nonprofit founder, is also a dynamic speaker, award-winning author, and the publisher of character education programs and books for students, educators, and parents. You can connect with Jill at her website Manners of the Heart, on her Facebook page, on Twitter, and on PinterestContinue Reading…