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It doesn’t seem to matter if we’re single or married, going through a rough patch or living an uneventful life, there are times when the blues seep into our souls like a cold rain on a chill winter’s day. What does God expect of us when failure, monotony, boredom, pain, uncertainty, grief, despair, or depression color our days?

These words from C. S. Lewis give us some perspective “[Satan’s] cause is never more in jeopardy than when a human, no longer desiring but still intending to do [God’s] will, looks round upon a universe in which every trace of Him seems to have vanished, asks why he has been forsaken, and still obeys.”

Can you think of some folks who looked out on such a universe? From the Bible—Joseph, any of the Hebrews in Egypt, including Jochebed, (Moses’ mother), Job, Naomi, Daniel, Mary, Jesus. From history—Corrie ten Boom, Darlene Deibler Rose, Elisabeth Elliott, Joni Eareckson Tada . . . and those are just the first names that popped into my head!

Imagine God looking out at a world in shadow, a world plagued by shallowness, corruption, and many other evils. In the midst of the darkness, He sees your light shining—in spite of difficult or boring or downright painful days. Imagine how He feels when we say with our actions, “Though the wait is wearying and the darkness hides You and joy seems like a distant memory, I will still love you, Lord.” (Click here to tweet.)

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And just as spring always follows even the bleakest winter, we can be assured that, eventually, our feelings will catch up with those actions.

I’m drawn to the stories where the hero woos the heroine and refuses to give up. When he pushes past her fears, doubts, prickliness, fickleness, stubbornness, and whatever else she throws in his way, to love her and win her love. Love that “bears all things” is the love God shares with us. How it must delight Him when we are able to direct a tiny portion of that love back to Him.

So, friends, though Satan and the world try to sever our grip, we must cling to our Savior.

How? Here are a few ideas . . .

  • Get help. Find a counselor, accountability group, or fellowship group.
  • Start something new. Begin a challenge or project that intrigues you.
  • Seek inspiration. Join a Bible study. Read a missionary biography. Tape inspirational verses and quotes around your house or work space.
  • Reach out. Serving others will fill up your heart.
  • Take every thought captive to Christ.
  • Pray without ceasing.
  • Give thanks.
  • Get a good night’s sleep and wake with the knowledge that you are not alone!

Who has some words of wisdom, advice, or encouragement to share? We’d love to hear from you. I promise to pray for anyone who leaves a comment!

You may also be interested in Hope for Desolate Days, part one.

This week I’m linking up with Monday Musings, Hear It on Sunday, Soli Deo Gloria, The Better Mom, Covered in Grace, Rachelwojo, Modest Mondays, GraceLaced Mondays, Raising Arrows, A Mama’s Story, Teach Me Tuesdays, Gratituesdays, Just Write, Titus 2 Tuesdays, Tell Me About It Tuesday, Tuesdays Unwrapped, Teaching What Is Good, Mom’s Library, Tuesday Tips, What I Learned This Week, Heart and Home, Domestically Divine Tuesday, Raising Homemakers, Deep Roots at Home, God Bumps, Wednesday Walkabout, Think Outside the Blog, Word-filled Wednesday, Thankful Homemaker, Wisdom Wednesday, Wholehearted Home Wednesdays, Thursday Favorite Things,Thriving Thursday, Hearts for Home, Legacy Leaver, Thoughtful Thursday, Life in the Comments, Almost Friday Thursday Blog Hop, Favorite Things, Faith-filled Friday, Friday @Homemaker by Choice, Just for Fun Friday, Fellowship Friday, Womanhood with Purpose, Weekend Whatever, and Heart Reflected.

blisstree woman with holiday blues christmas lights1Now that Christmas is over, are you dreading the letdown that comes with the return of your routine? You know how it will go. In your quiet moments, you’ll feel a little down. Then you’ll find yourself wanting to cry for no reason. Soon you’ll feel that inescapable longing for something you can’t quite put into words. And that’s when you’ll know you’ve caught a full-blown case of Post-Holiday Depression . . . Or maybe you think that finally this year you did everything “right” to avoid the syndrome . . . 

Here’s a quiz for you. Consider the following scenarios:

Scenario 1: You’re healthy and have a stable job, but you’re vaguely dissatisfied and often lonely. You spent weeks dreading the holiday. Your Christmas celebration fell flat. You’re certain that everyone else you know—the folks you work with, your neighbors and friends—all are happier than you are.

Scenario 2: You have a happy marriage and loving family. You spent weeks planning the perfect holiday. Your Christmas celebration was lovely and meaningful. The meal was the best you’d ever produced. You spent time with your family without any major outbreaks or fighting.

Question: Which of these scenarios will most likely lead to a good case of post-holiday depression?

Answer: Either one!

Because depression is all about feelings that attack us in spite of the truths we know in our heads.

rain460It doesn’t seem to matter if we’re single or married, going through a rough patch or living an uneventful life, when the after Christmas blues seep into our souls like a cold rain on a chill winter’s day.

For some of us, holiday time brings to the surface our failures, griefs, broken dreams, and unmet longings. And we wallow in them. Oh, we know better. We tell ourselves that life is not a Hallmark movie. That we’re expecting too much. That no husband, friend, or loved one could live up to our expectations. After all, there is no person in existence who can meet all our needs, always be there for us, know us inside and out and love us anyway, make our wildest dreams come true . . .

Or . . . maybe there is . . .

C. S. Lewis said, “If I find in myself a longing which nothing on earth can fulfill, the most likely reason is, I was made for another world.”

For me, this quote brings home the fact that nothing in this world will satisfy us forever. Oftentimes joy accompanies our journey, but God did not intend for us to find our ultimate happiness here.

So our blues can be a reminder that even the best earth has to offer will leave us wanting more. That even the most wonderful experiences are only a foretaste of what God has in store for His children. And somehow allowing my blues to serve a purpose gives me more strength to endure them.

How about you, friends? Are you bracing for an emotional hit come January? Or are you ready to give comfort and hope to those around you who may be hurting? Be assured, I pray for each one who leaves a comment!

Now that we’ve identified the source of our blues, what do we do about them? Tune in next week for Pt. II.

***This is a reprint of a post from Christmases past!

This week I’m linking up with Monday Musings, Hear It on Sunday, Soli Deo Gloria, The Better Mom, Covered in Grace, Rachelwojo, Modest Mondays, GraceLaced Mondays, Raising Arrows, A Mama’s Story, Teach Me Tuesdays, Gratituesdays, Just Write, Titus 2 Tuesdays, Tell Me About It Tuesday, Tuesdays Unwrapped, Teaching What Is Good, Mom’s Library, Tuesday Tips, What I Learned This Week, Heart and Home, Domestically Divine Tuesday, Raising Homemakers, Deep Roots at Home, God Bumps, Wednesday Walkabout, Think Outside the Blog, Word-filled Wednesday, Thankful Homemaker, Wisdom Wednesday, Wholehearted Home Wednesdays, Thursday Favorite Things,Thriving Thursday, Hearts for Home, Legacy Leaver, Thoughtful Thursday, Life in the Comments, Almost Friday Thursday Blog Hop, Favorite Things, Faith-filled Friday, Friday @Homemaker by Choice, Just for Fun Friday, Fellowship Friday, Womanhood with Purpose, Weekend Whatever, and Heart Reflected.

Now that Christmas is over, are you feeling a little down?  Do you find yourself wanting to cry for no reason? Do you feel a longing for something you can’t quite put into words? You’re probably suffering from a case of the after Christmas blues.

Not so sure? Here’s a quiz for you. Consider the following scenarios:

Scenario 1: You’re healthy and have a stable job, but you’re vaguely dissatisfied and often lonely. You spent weeks dreading the holiday. Your Christmas celebration fell flat. You’re certain that everyone else you know—the folks you work with, your neighbors and friends—all are happier than you are.

Scenario 2: You have a happy marriage and loving family. You spent weeks planning the perfect holiday. Your Christmas celebration was lovely and meaningful. The meal was the best you’d ever produced. You spent time with your family without any major outbreaks or fighting.

Question: Which of these scenarios will most likely lead to a good case of post-holiday blues?

Answer: Either one!

You may have thought you did everything “right” to avoid the syndrome this year and were surprised when it hit you anyway. But depression is all about feelings that attack us in spite of the truths we know in our heads.

It doesn’t seem to matter if we’re single or married, going through a rough patch or living an uneventful life, when the after Christmas blues seep into our souls like a cold rain on a chill winter’s day.

For some of us, holiday time brings to the surface our failures, griefs, broken dreams, and unmet longings. And we wallow in them. Oh, we know better. We tell ourselves that life is not a Hallmark movie. That we’re expecting too much. That no husband, friend, or loved one could live up to our expectations. After all, there is no person in existence who can meet all our needs, always be there for us, know us inside and out and love us anyway, make our wildest dreams come true . . .

Or . . . maybe there is . . .

C. S. Lewis said, “If I find in myself a longing which nothing on earth can fulfill, the most likely reason is, I was made for another world.”

For me, this quote brings home the fact that nothing in this world will satisfy us forever. Oftentimes joy accompanies our journey, but God did not intend for us to find our ultimate happiness here.

So our blues can be a reminder that even the best earth has to offer will leave us wanting more. That even the most wonderful experiences are only a foretaste of what God has in store for His children.

Somehow allowing my blues to serve a purpose gives me a tad more strength to endure them.

Now that we’ve identified the source of our blues, what do we do about them? Tune in later this week for part II.

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