A Good Talking To

Renee Ann Smith —  August 11, 2014 — 30 Comments

I awoke anxious and afraid almost every morning during my school-age years.

Nothing traumatic had happened in my past. No one in my family had died. Two stable parents left for work every morning & returned home every night. We always had a roof over our heads & food on the table. The bullies at school didn’t have time to bother me.

Yet still I woke with a sick feeling in my stomach and the urge to hide from the world and the certainty that no one could protect me from the fearful things that were coming my way. My morning alarm was the signal for my current “What Ifs” to begin circling in my brain . . .

 . . . “What if I miss the bus again & this time Mom gets mad? What if the history teacher gives a quiz on the chapter I didn’t read? What if I can’t find anyone to sit with at lunch? What if I do something embarrassing & the whole class sees? . . .”

Somewhere along the line, I learned to give myself a “good talking to.”

Back then, my early morning mantra went something like this . . . “You’re fine. Everyone you know is fine. This is just life. You can handle it. And when you can’t, it’s okay to ask for help . . .”

I didn’t realize until after I became a Christian, what a valuable lesson my young self had learned.

As a dear friend who battled depression for years told me, “When I started talking to myself instead of listening to myself, that’s when I began to heal.”

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In the dictionary, talking & listening are opposites.

When it comes to our inner life, not so much.

But in the Bible, we see that men like David understood the subtle distinction. Psalm 42 shows us the conversation he had with himself . . . 

“Why, my soul, are you downcast?  Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.”

How freeing to learn that we don’t have to be the victims of the fearful, anxious thoughts that try to take up residence in our brains. Are you experiencing fear & anxiety?

Maybe it’s time to give yourself a good talking to!

Here are a few verses & quotes to start you off . . .

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” ~II Corinthians 10:5~

“Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.” ~Colossians 3:2~

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” ~Philippians 4:8~

“For God has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.'” ~Hebrews 13:5b~

“When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” ~Psalm 56:3~

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.” ~Isaiah 26:3~

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James, philosopher, psychologist, physician, 1842-1910~

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” ~Corrie ten Boom~

“When fear comes knocking at your door, send faith to answer.” ~Joyce Meyer~

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What are some of your favorites?

Thanks for stopping by today. Blessings, friends!

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Renee Ann Smith

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I teach literature in a Christian high school by day and write inspirational fiction by night. I love to share heart-touching quotes and stories here on my blog. So glad you stopped by!

30 responses to A Good Talking To

  1. Wonderful post…I’ve always been a worrier…but nothing serious ever happened. Then, my only brother got sick….mentally…and I almost lost my mind, too, over worrying about my sweet brother. I almost got totally sick before my husband sat me down one day and told me he couldn’t take seeing me so worried…I went down on my knees that instant and told God I just couldn’t carry this worry a minute longer and to please take it from me. This, of course, is exactly what HE wants us to do…let HIM take care of things. I began to heal almost instantly….not to say I don’t still worry some over brother…just not the kind of “walk the floor at night, crying and praying all night long” and wake up crying.
    Wow…I didn’t mean to bear my soul here…but, it feels good sometimes to bear it all.:)
    Thanks for listening.
    xo bj

    • I’m glad you shared here, BJ! This is how we remind each other that we’re not alone in this struggle to keep our eyes on God & hold fast to the truth. So glad you allow your husband to be a real help to you & thank God for how He guards our hearts & minds in Christ Jesus! Blessings!

  2. This is a fantastic post. I really loved it and felt extremely uplift by your thoughts today. I loved the graphics and the scripture quotes. I am sharing this one.
    Blessings for this one!

  3. Awesome share.

    I love how you pointed out that there was no tragedy but you were still scared. I think it’s important to point that out so everyone realizes that fear can happen to anyone.


  4. Rich stuff here! I can relate. Love the verses.

  5. Wonderful post, Renee. It is amazing how powerful our thoughts can be. May we speak firmly to our souls, bringing them back to the truth of God. David taught us well 🙂 blessings!

  6. Wonderful post! I can so relate… and it is so beautiful how speaking God’s truth to our hearts sets us free, brings healing, moves mountains – isn’t it? Thank you for sharing this! We need to continually remind ourselves…

  7. This is true… there are so many things pulling us down every day…. including our own thoughts… God says to take our thoughts captive… and one way to do that is to counteract them with truth. Thank you for sharing this. 🙂

    • I remember hearing Elisabeth Elliot comment on the “taking our thoughts captive” verse by saying, “The problem with captives is, they don’t want to go!” 🙂 I’m glad that truth is powerful enough to captivate. Thanks for stopping by today. Blessings!

  8. Amber@Beautiful Rubbish August 12, 2014 at 2:06 pm

    Wow, your friends words on talking to herself as a way of listening and healing are powerful. So much truth here.

  9. Visiting from Rachel Wojo’s link up. I suffer from chronic depression and that everyday is journey and sometimes a battle. It’s places and words like these that give courage and bravery wings to carry my heart and mind towards much needed healing. Thank you for sharing today!

  10. Renee,
    Love all these encouraging scriptures you shared for just when our hearts need them the most — in our anxious moments throughout the day!

  11. So looking forward to visiting all your blogs after I finish some school work 🙂 Blessings, ladies!

  12. Hi Renee. I love the insights you have shared here! Over the last few months I’ve been discovering the power of a positive confession in helping to overcome my usual default negativity related to how I perceive myself. It’s already working wonders in my relationships and creating space for God to affirm me too and for me to begin to fully accept and believe Him. The fear and shame based actions we fall into can be really destructive, souring our attitudes to ourselves and other people too. Thanks very much for the biblical wisdom and personal stories you share to highlight the life-changing aspects of speaking to ourselves in a balanced and positive way. 🙂

  13. Wonderfully encouraging, Renee. What a timely post. Love the quote from Corrie ten Boom. Have a blessed week!

  14. Fighting fear with scripture is a perfect suggestion! I have two girls about to do school for the first time. I’ll be helping them to remember some of these anxiety battling words!

  15. Thank you for pointing out this difference, Renee. You can know something but still need to really except as truth. My thoughts can go to scary places. When that begins to happen it’s so important that I begin to speak His truths to myself to wash away the lies. Great encouragement.
    Btw, I always love your graphics. Would you come teach me? 🙂

  16. “When I started talking to myself instead of…” I just love that quote! Great post! Thanks for sharing it with us at Coffee and Conversation this week. 🙂

  17. Renee, that internal dialogue is so important…and can send us either up or down depending on the words we choose. Thank you for the great words you have given us to replace those negative tapes in our heads. Appreciate you linking up to Testimony Tuesday!

  18. I like that idea of talking to yourself more than listening to yourself. I think that would help a lot.

  19. What a great concept! I talk to myself other times, why not when anxiety sneaks in? 🙂

  20. Thanks so much for sharing with Wednesday’s Adorned From Above Link Party.
    Debi @ Adorned From Above

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